To my future children. By the time you are able to read this post, I am probably in my late 30’s and still look gorgeous as ever.
This post is about a man who rocked Ummi’s world. A man whom I respect and hold on to. An amazing man who came to my life by surprise. Responsible and love his children more than his life. He loves us unconditionally. He is most proud of us although he doesn’t show it. He is our provider and our cheerleader. He is…
I have met so many wonderful people. Travelled all around the world. Worked in a different country. Enjoyed every moment. I was living life. Amidst all these, I knew that there is still a missing piece in my life that I wasn’t sure what was it. I turned to Allah and did my Umrah, Alhamdulillah. It was in front of the majestic Ka’aba that I prayed and wished that Allah would lead a wonderful man to me to complete that emptiness and fulfill my deen.
How can I find myself a husband?
I turned to the world wide web for answers. Muslim matrimonial websites were my indicators. I remembered to have registered for 3 different sites. I must say I met very interesting brothers Masyaallah. Some didn’t work out. Some…almost. Some…just pain in the butt. Different individuals have different needs and expectations. Too much of expectations in fact.
But..no matter how devastated one situation after another can be, I didn’t give up. I know I have to find someone and have faith for Allah will help me.
One day when I surfed YouTube, I stumbled upon a video by Baba Ali and his matrimonial website called Half Our Deen. Knowing Baba Ali and his cool ways of giving da’wah, I thought why not give it a go. What I’ve noticed was I can’t view any of the brothers’s pictures unless I pay for the registration. Unlike other websites I’ve been to, some are free and some allowed you to view pictures prior signing up. I took out my debit card and I remembered saying ‘I’m doing this because of Allah’ and BAAM! I was registered.
Again… the process continues. In and out and after few attempts, I decided to shut down my account and just give husband hunting a rest. After a month, I checked HalfOurDeen again and I was surprised that my account was put on sleep rather than being deleted for good. Since my account was paid for 1 year service, I mustered all my strength and give it one more go.
Probably 5 minutes after, I received a message from a man that I wasn’t interested in replying at all. He messaged me before this when I had my account active. I was like ‘ Maan!, this man is damn persistent ‘ and decided to give him a chance. His name is Valentino Chavez (Vito) and the rest is history.
We talked for 7 months and I flew to the USA to meet this man of my dream. I had no idea what to expect. Whether he might be a serial killer or sex psychopath but I was sure I did the right thing. He told me, even though I would be ugly in person..he would still marry me. pffttt! (see how annoying daddy is???) I have prayed Istikharah and alhamdulillah I was sure about this man. With my parents and family’s blessing I was married by Imaam Karim Abu Zaid at Masjid Abu Bakr, Denver Colorado on March 7th, 2012.
Wow. I’m a wife??? Until now, I still couldn’t believe that I am finally… married! wooohoo!!
Married life is a new dimension. The other phase in life that you’d be tested vigorously by Allah s.w.t. Whether good or bad, just enjoy and endure it. No matter how hard the day could be..in the end you know your soulmate is waiting, arms open for you.
I am grateful that I married a super hunk awesome muslim man. A man who accepted me thoroughly. A man who introduces me to a whole new world and a new family.
I couldn’t have asked for more…except for an iMac and a craft studio 😛
Children, now you know how I met your father. In life, you have to believe in your decision and go get ’em. Be persistent and be ready to overcome any obstacles. Don’t you ever ever give up because the moment you feel that there’s no hope, all door closes and you might not get what you wanted. Have faith in Allah and Insyallah..Allah will show you the path.
and to my husband..I love you Sweetheart. May we be the best of Muslims and be a great role model for our children.
..and to Allah.. Thank you so much! You’re the best! **nawal**
Aw Masha Allah a wonderful story! May Allah bless you and give you awesome, blessed, healthy, happy and Islamic children. Aameen! May Allah bless you and your husband and grant you all Jannat-ul-Firdaus. Aameen!
Alhamdulillah.. Thank u for sharing your beautiful journey. May ur journey as a wife n mum be a smooth sailing one. And InsyAllah.. may ur jodoh lasts till paradise. Stories like urs never fail to give me a glimpse of hope despite several bad experiences. =D
Aku nak menangeh baca artikel ini. Aku selalu cerita pasai adventure hang kat kawan kawan aku. Banyak juga yang skeptikel. Of cozz la. Tapi siriesly, persetankan apa yang hang kata. Apa yang aku belajar dari hidup hang ialah, hang buat kerana Allah dan dengan niat yang murni itu hang akan terus pergi dan meminta 'approval' daripada sesiapa. Itulah satu benda yang tak semestinya semua orang boleh buat. My love will always be for you Nawal Shahril yang hebat. ps/ kepada anak-anak Nawal yang membawa komen ini. Aunty mok just nak bagitau….AMPA UNTUNG DAPAT MAK YANG ROCK MACAM DIA.
salam sister, i was so amazed to read your story. I am one of them who's looking for a spouse online (since the offline didnt really work for me) but deep in my heart there's still doubt whether the relationship would last or not. It is such a scary thing that always stopped me from continuing the relationship with anyone who approached me online, who i hardly know. i wish i could be like u, just give it a go and never turn back. nway sister, i pray for your happiness and blessing from Allah 🙂
Just go for it. you will never know till you've tried sister. surely there are some glitches but that's how it is. Remember that Allah will give adversities to those whom he knows could withstand it. You can definitely do it!
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